Over
40? What is most important to you?
By Craig Nathanson
The Vocational Coach
I
doubt that
anyone will run up to you on Monday morning at work and ask you what is
most
important to you. Organizational life is concerned with productivity,
revenue
and efficiency. Whats most important to you and your life are of
little value
or concern in the organization.
What do
you do?
You
need to
figure this out. Your behavior is driven by what you do and more
importantly
who you are. This starts with a deep analysis of who you are and what
is most
important to you. Since most of your waking days are spent working,
what you do
will determine who you are.
What work
is most important to you?
Have
you
thought about this? What is the work that fits you best? What is the
work that best
aligns your abilities and your interests?
What
kind
of work gives you a sense of fulfillment and meaning? This is another
question
no one will ask you at your job today.
You
need to
figure this out for yourself.
What kind
of work culture fits you best?
Do you want
to teach? Then work around teachers.
Do you want
to design? Then work around engineers.
Do you want
to build? Then work around builders.
Design an
environment to fit YOU
Many
studies have shown that the best work environments include fresh air,
windows, soft
colors, individualized music, climate controls, cushy chairs and so on.
So why
do we spend our lives in gray, faceless cubicles with walls that cant
even
support hanging pictures of our loved ones? Windows and fresh air are
nowhere
to be found or have to be earned!
Do
you yearn
to work in a big building in the city or a small cottage in the
country? Do you
want to work inside or outdoors? Do you want to work by yourself, with
a small
group of people or with a large group? Are you an early riser or do you
prefer
to ease into your day?
Make a list
Start
by listing
the details that are most important to you in your life.
Write
down
how you will know when you are following what is most important to you
and how
you will know when youre not. With this list in mind you can begin to
design
short and long term goals that align with what is most important to you.
Your work
determines who you are
So
many
people come to me stuck in a vocational rut. They soon discover that
the work
they have been doing all their lives no longer fits their self-image
and what
is most important to them.
I
had a
friend once who was a painter. He took a day job processing paperwork
for an
insurance firm to pay the rent. He told me later he came home too
exhausted to
paint and soon realized he had become an insurance clerk.
So many
possibilities for you
There
are
so many possibilities for you. What bothers you most about the world?
What you
would like to change? What change do you most want to see in the world,
your
country, your city, your neighborhood?
You
CAN do
the work best suited to making changes you want to see but you must
start
thinking in new possibilities.
What is
possible right now?
As
you
think about the work you are most passionate about, what is possible
right now?
Be carefulyour life is determined by what you do.
Your
sense
of happiness and your self-worth affect the quality of your life each
and every
day.
There
are
no shortcuts to vocational passion.
Retirement
is the biggest myth of
all
The
only
people who retire are those who dont love what they do. If you did
what YOU
loved each and every day, why would you ever want to stop?
Mid-life
is a time to narrow the
choices
With
the
best part of your life remaining, now is the time to focus on what is
truly most
important to you and what work you are most passionate about.
There is
no time to waste
After
forty,
there is a greater sense of the movement of time and the need to make
the best use
of it. You have no time to waste on activities that have no meaning to
you,
especially in your work.
What about
the money?
No
more
excuses. You have a choice right now. You can fill your days with work
that lacks
meaning and happiness or you can decide NOW to close the gap between
what you
are doing now and the work you most want to do and are most passionate
about.
Life can
be rich without the money!
To
truly
experience a rich life, you must decide NOW to focus on what is most
important to
you and to take action to move towards it.
The
six secret
steps to reach your goal (in this order) are:
- Envision it
- Write it down
- Talk to others
- Take small
steps daily towards doing what you love
- Measure your
progress and self-correct your path as you go
- Reward
yourself daily
Your life
is a journey
Take
the
path that seems most interesting, most fun and most meaningful and
youll never
look back. Besides, you will live a richer life and become a wonderful
role
model for others.
Craig
Nathanson is the author of P Is For Perfect: Your
Perfect Vocational Day and a coaching expert who works with people
over forty. Craigs new E-book, Discover and live your passion 365 days
a
year is a workshop in a box designed to
help busy adults go insane with their work. Craigs systematic
approach, the
trademark "Ten P" model, helps people break free and move toward the
work they love. Visit Craigs online community at www.thevocationalcoach.com
where
you can sign up for a class or private coaching and read other stories
of
mid-life change and renewal.
Craig
lives in San Anselmo,
California and can be
reached at
415-457-0550 or craig@thevocationalcoach.com.